As you find your Facebook feed flooded with updated relationship statuses and your Instagram feed filled with glittering diamond rings, you may start questioning your own life decisions.

Don’t.

Sure, seeing the girl who sat at your lunch table in elementary school sporting a flashy rock on her finger can be shocking. Discussing your weekend plans with a friend who is making wedding plans might make you feel like you live on different planets. But their engagements do not impact your own milestones and accomplishments.

So don’t feel like you have to keep dropping hints to your significant other if your relationship isn’t quite there. And if you’re single, you don’t have to retweet all the “forever alone” memes. Your relationship status does not define you.

At the same time, it is easy to judge the people around you based on what is going on in your own life. How could they be getting married at 23 while I still eat fast food six times a week?

Stop.

There is no mandatory timeline for the order of events in your life.

Some people choose to marry young and take on the challenges and responsibilities of adult life side-by-side. Some prefer to become established in their careers before they “settle down” together. Others opt to *gasp* avoid marriage entirely.

What is right for you might not be right for your Facebook friend.

So congratulate them—close out of the app—and move on with your day.